Monday, March 30, 2009

My Life Story

The story of my life sometimes goes like this: I save something because it is important and I know I will one day need it, that day comes and I can’t find it, I spend hours searching to no avail. This happened again today. I can’t find the fabric covered cording that trimmed the red upholstered wall in my daughter’s room/home office/guest room. When I removed the fabric covered cording (probably about eight years ago), to recover the wall in the new motif, I put it in a safe place just in case I might one day need it again. That day has come and I can’t find the cording I so carefully put away.

There are two logical places in which to look. The first is the linen closet; the second is the heinous hall closet. I looked in the linen closet; I’m not ready to deal with the hall closet, yet. This is what I found on just the two shelves in the closet that I was able to get to tonight:
  • A body pillow, one of those long pillows, covered in the celestial moon and star pattern – GARAGE SALE
  • 2 baby-blue faux fur throw pillows – GARAGE SALE
  • 2 black pleather throw pillows with silhouettes of hot pink cats – GARAGE SALE
  • A set of brand new, still in the package, beige sheets for a double bed – KEEP
  • A twin-size quilted mattress protector. GIVE to Daughter #2; she has a twin bed in her guest room.
  • A really ugly green blanket – KEEP (don’t know why, but I might need a really ugly green blanket one day)
  • A box of Space Bags – KEEP
  • A crochet blanket, Daughter #2’s security blanket of sorts – KEEP. She called this her oatmeal blanket, for one of two reasons – either it was because part of it was made of ecru yarn that was the color of oatmeal, or because she ate breakfast every morning wrapped up in the blanket and she got more oatmeal on the blanket than in her tummy
  • 2 canvas drawstring laundry bags – KEEP

I will finish the closet tomorrow. But it is not looking good that I will find the cording. If the story of my life plays out according to the previous chapters, what will happen is this: I won’t find the cording, I will cover new cording with matching fabric, and as soon as it is installed I will find the old cording. I have lived this story many times before!

Saturday, March 28, 2009

You Scream, I Scream, We All Scream for Ice Cream

Yesterday, while innocently reaching for ice cubes, I realized I needed to clean out my freezer. Today I tackled the large food storage compartment and noticed I have a bad habit of freezing leftovers and never eating them. When the crust of ice under the Tupperware lid is so thick as to make the food underneath unrecognizable I throw it away. I guess this is some strange food ritual I learned somewhere. (From my grandmother, Big Red, perhaps?) I also uncovered some frozen farm produce from last summer – black-eyed peas, green chilies, jalapenos and pimientos. But the most exciting discovery of all was the one pint container of green tea flavor “It’s Soy Delicious” non-dairy frozen dessert. (It is amazing what passes for dessert around my house.) It was exciting, that was, until I remembered I gave up sweets for Lent. (Sweets and alcohol – what was I thinking?) After trying to convince myself that non-dairy frozen dessert didn’t really count as a sweet, I put it back in the freezer with visions of ice cream dancing in my head.

When I was a child ice cream was a treat. When we were lucky enough to have ice cream in our house it was usually the cheaper store brand and it was usually vanilla. Sometimes we had chocolate and sometimes we had strawberry (usually on someone’s birthday) and as an extra-special-super-duper treat we might have Neapolitan. This came in a rectangular carton which Mother would carefully open so she could slice a piece that held all three flavors. We sometimes had a vile concoction called ice milk. It tasted like ice cream made with water instead of milk; why bother?

Once or twice a year our family traveled across the great state of Texas to my father’s hometown in east Texas to visit my grandparents, his parents, and my aunts, uncles, and cousins. We would usually arrive at my grandparents’ house late in the evening to a meal of fried salmon patties (croquettes as my Maw Maw called them), fried potatoes, cream style corn, cabbage slaw, and stewed tomatoes. The crowning touch was dessert. My Maw-Maw was a diabetic with an infamous sweet tooth. She always wanted “a little something sweet” after dinner and that “little something sweet” was usually a coke float. I use the word coke generically, as do most folks in Texas; a coke was any carbonated beverage regardless of flavor or manufacturer. Coke floats at my grandparents’ house could be made with Seven-Up, Dr. Pepper, Coca Cola, Nehi Orange Crush, or Grape-ette, but the ice cream was always Cabell’s vanilla with black vanilla bean specks in it. I thought there was no better ice cream in the entire world.

We kids would trek out to our Paw-Paw’s detached garage where he kept the wooden cases of 6-ounce bottles of “coke” and select our flavor. We would return to my Maw-Maw’s white tiled kitchen where she would have tall glasses full of Cabell’s vanilla ice cream waiting for us. The other adults were in the living room having a high-ball, Maw-Maw didn’t drink alcohol; her vice was sweets. Even now, years later, I can see her sitting at her kitchen table in her homemade housedress, rolled stockings, and sensible pumps. Her hair was gray, tinted either purple or blue, depending on the whim of Vergie, her neighbor/hairdresser, and held in place by a spider-web thin hairnet. Her big eyes, once brown, but now cloudy with cataracts were magnified behind her thick, rimless glasses. The skin on her face was remarkably soft, wrinkled and covered with powder. We would open the “coke” bottles with an old-fashioned church-key bottle opener and pour the liquid over the ice cream. I can still smell the bubbles from the 7-Up, hear the fizz of the Coca Cola, and see the bright, artificial colors of the orange Nehi and purple Grape-ette. We used silver-plate iced tea spoons to reach the ice cream from the bottom of the glass. Years later when my grandparents passed away I requested and received the very same silver-plate spoons. I use one every morning to stir my coffee and remember my Maw-Maw asking us if we wouldn’t like a “little something sweet” after our dinner. If she were still with us, I am sure she would tell me to go ahead and eat the “It’s Soy Delicious” non-dairy frozen dessert, as there is no way in hell she would call that a sweet!

Friday, March 27, 2009

Is It Cold In Here Or Is It Just Me?

A long day, not too much time for a cleaning/purging project, but I did clean out the upper compartment of my freezer (this is a small compartment normally only used for ice and frosted beer mugs). I opened the door to get some ice and discovered a paint brush in a plastic Ziploc bag from staining the hot tub this past summer. I read somewhere that if you put a wet paint brush in a plastic bag and store it in the freezer you can thaw it later and it is ready to paint with again. This is especially good if you have to stop in mid-project, know you will get back to it soon and don’t want to clean your brush. I don’t know what I thought I would get back to staining, but obviously it wasn’t pressing. It has been 10 months since I put the paintbrush in the freezer and I just today realized it was there. I guess it was time to clean out the freezer. The paintbrush was the biggest oddity, but running a close second was the Ziploc bag of ice, melted and refrozen in a shape to fit over my knee. I used this to ice my knee after my attempt at training for a half marathon. I haven’t attempted to run since August. Tomorrow I will move on to the main freezer section, God only knows what I’ll find in there!

Thursday, March 26, 2009

Email Stuff

From: Daughter #1
Sent: Wednesday, February 25, 2009 10:50 AM
To: Mom
Subject: stuff
your blog today almost made me cry! sweet little tweetybird daughter #2

I was also thinking about your blog yesterday, as one of the many underlying inspirations for me to apply to law school was, bizarrely, going through all of my debate stuff (which I know was a thorn in your side for many years, but I thank you for letting it take up that closet for so long). I NEEDED to keep it because it represented something about myself, and in going through it all in October I was really reminded of what that is. Anyway, just a thought on "stuff" (and why we need it!)

xoxox
me

The above is an actual email from Daughter #1. Only the names have been changed to protect the innocent. I asked her permission to use it in a future blog and she gave it, so I’m not telling tales out of school (whatever that means?).

Over the course of the almost three months I have been writing this blog and cleaning/purging my house I have learned a lot. I have discovered that some of our stuff defines us. As my daughter said in her email – her stuff reminded her of who she was meant to be. In the case of my grandmother’s stuff – it reminds us of from whence we came and in the case of my mother’s stuff - it reminds me of who she was and who she inspired me to be. The jury is still out on my stuff. I haven’t figured it out yet.

Stuff can be powerful, stuff can be inspiring or useful, but stuff can also be dangerous. One of the reasons I began this blog (aside from the obvious – wanting a cleaner house) was because I felt I was being stifled by my stuff. Too much stuff makes me feel like I am being smothered, like I am drowning in it. People who know me well will be surprised to hear me say that because I have always been a collector and a pack rat. But I think there was something about turning fifty that made me want to begin the purge. Getting rid of the stuff brings with it a lighter feeling, it is somehow freeing. I have heeded my daughter’s advice and I am careful to keep the things that represent something about myself; sometimes I need that reminder.

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

But I Would Never Sell My Soul

Once I decided to have a garage sale I ended up with a mess on my hands. All of the stuff purged from my daughter’s room is in limbo at the moment. Half of the stuff was already by the front door waiting to be hauled off when I got the brilliant idea of having a sale. I couldn’t leave it there until the sale (I actually saw nothing wrong with leaving it there, but my husband objected) – we haven’t even set a date for the sale yet. So, I fell back on one of my classic habits – I moved all of the boxes into Daughter #1’s room until we decide when and where to have the sale. At least one room is clean!

Thinking about having a garage sale has put a bounty on my stuff. I am seeing things in a new light now that I know there is money involved. I guess it is true what they say, “Everything has its price.” Or is it, “Everyone has their price?” Whichever, I am now rethinking some of my KEEPS, and considering attacking the dreaded garage project. Yes, I am that greedy.

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

My Daughter's Room

Spending so much time in Daughter #2’s room the past few days brought back a lot of memories. While going through boxes of her stuff, rearranging furniture, and even exposing fabric on a padded accent wall that has been covered up for years I have reflected on the childhood my daughter spent in that room. So many good times and a few not so good ones thrown in to remind us we are human.

While putting the bed back in the same place it was when she was three years old I remembered the night I stayed up with her trying to sponge away her high fever. Early the next morning we rushed her to the pediatrician’s office where she had a spinal tap and we ended up in I.C.U. for nine days with spinal meningitis, not knowing if she would live and then anticipating she would be deaf or blind or brain damaged (and welcoming that option over losing her). That story had a wonderful ending – she came away from her near death experience unscathed.

Putting some of my stuff in her now clean closet I thought about all of the toys she had as a child that were stashed in boxes, bins and baskets in that closet. I remembered one particular day when her cousins (who were not allowed to have lots of stuff strewn about their rooms) were visiting. When it was time for them to leave, their daddy and I went in the room to get them and we couldn’t find them. The room was absolutely trashed. Every single toy, game, stuffed animal and doll she owned was spread out all over her room. As we stood there dumbfounded by the mess we heard a giggle that soon erupted into full blown laughter from three little kids. My daughter and her two cousins were indeed in the room – they were just hidden by all of the toys. It was reminiscent of the scene in E.T. where the kids hid E.T. in the closet among all of the toys.

As I was wrestling heavy boxes around her room I was reminded of a time, when she was probably about 5 years old, and she claimed the very large box our new hot water heater came in. She put it next to her bed, put pillows and blankets in it and slept there for several months. When a friend asked her why, she said she wanted to know what homeless people felt like. She has always been compassionate and empathetic. Not much has changed there.

She will kill me for repeating this last memory. While putting the new bedding on the bed I saw the slightly lighter stain on the mattress. I remembered how that stain got there. Suffice it to say it was during high school, after a party that involved drinking beer, and not making it to the bathroom quickly enough. I will fess up that I had a similar experience during my high school days – the apple didn’t fall far from the tree.

There are so many wonderful memories and so many happy times associated with that room. My daughter spent the first twenty years of her life there. Now I am taking it over, but her mark is permanently there. As much as I have tried to think of it as my office/guest room, I can’t. It will always be Daughter #2’s room. I hope I can create twenty more years of wonderful memories in there.

Monday, March 23, 2009

Stuff I Can Sell

I spent most of Sunday and several hours this evening working on my new home office/guest room. The bed is moved in. This was accomplished by the use of a loaner truck, my husband’s brawn, and with minimal blood shed. (While loading the bed in the truck the metal bed frame fell on my husband’s head.) Bed is set up and has new bed linen. I even bought new pillows for the shams.

Once the bed task was complete it was time to move on to the boxes. Boxes and boxes of Daughter #2’s discarded past. As I perused the contents I had a crazy idea. You know how difficult it has been for me to get rid of so much GOOD stuff. So, why not have a garage sale? I broached the idea with Daughter #2 and she was excited about it. (She’s obviously never had a garage sale!) It looks like we are going to have a garage sale. Now the logistics: Where, when, how do we split the work, and most importantly – how do we split the money?

Funny, now that money is involved I am a little more inclined to purge.